Reluctant subject?

[CrazyStars]

This may be a ridiculous question, but I'm hoping to get a few suggestions as I'm a bit at a loss.

Last weekend, I did my first e-session. I got on really well with the bride and she looks great in the photos, but the groom seemed a bit... disinterested? :huh

I tried to be friendly and chatted & joked with them quite a bit to get them as comfortable with me and the camera as possible, but I don't think he wanted to be there, period. Unfortunately, as would be expected, it shows in the photos. She looks happy & in love and he looks like he'd rather be anywhere else. Even in photos where they're kissing! (I even snapped a few of her wiping her lipstick off him, but... well, they didn't make the final cut as it wasn't the cute moment one would expect...)

Is there anything I could have done to get him to be a bit more into it? I'd like to be a bit more prepared if ever I encounter a subject that reluctant again. I've shot children who were easier than this guy. :scratch

[sweet caroline]

This happened to me with an engagement shoot, and I was very worried about the groom on the wedding day. But guess what- he was so happy to be getting married that he loosened right up. Also, he was much less self conscious when it was about the wedding and not about the photo shoot. Plus, men in many ways see the wedding as a big party (not that that don't take their vows seriously). All their buddies are there, their family is there, there's drinking and dancing, there's the wedding night.... it's a lot to be happy and excited about.

Most men I've worked with respond well to me being a little silly and some good natured teasing, without trying too hard or being over the top with it. Basically, not taking myself too seriously, and having a bit of a sense of humor. I wouldn't necessarily do this with every client, but it lightens the mood, which relaxes them.

Caroline